One of the things that always bugged me about the debate-for-Jesus approach that continues to invade many of our ideas of how to “evangelize” is that I never felt like those discussions/debates were really helping anyone move forward. Sure, we were talking about pressing questions like “how do I know God is real” or “how can you believe Jesus is the only way to God,” and we will tackle these types of things at EastLake, but at the end of the discussion, even if I felt like I had “won,” I really lost, because in the end the other person just felt it was okay for me to believe it, but it “wasn’t for him.”
Modeling a memorize-and-regurgitate church culture wasn’t working. It taught me to win, not love. And many times, love will NOT be about “winning” a deep, theological discussion. Everyone goes through life deciding what to believe in VERY different ways. It would be foolish of me to continue pretending some linear track of “evangelism” could be applied to everyone.
So when I read this excerpt from “No Perfect People Allowed,” it was an “a ha” moment.
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“I can see why it’s true for you, but it’s not true for me,” Chris rebutted.
“But Chris, you just said it all makes sense and you can see why I believe in Christ– so why wouldn’t you want to believe too?” I pushed for clarity.
His reply haunted me for years: “You know, I guess I just don’t want to be like you.”
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Wow. Rough. But I get it. Why would anyone want to believe what I do if I am nothing more than an uncaring debater - some guy who doesn’t care one bit about their needs or never attempted to show one ounce of love before engaging them in some academic routine? Furthermore, let’s say the guy was interested, do I have a caring faith family that would be safe to bring him to, no matter where he is in life?
Knowing the message of Jesus is very important (of course) - but first creating the culture Jesus Himself modeled is absolutely critical. It will be so fun. And it will be messy. I’m not perfect. You aren’t either. None of us are. But I can’t wait to move forward this October and create this culture with you at EastLake!